You might be getting to a point where you are interested and curious about sex. What is sex? Who can have sex? Why do people have sex? There are many different questions and thoughts that might be going through your mind. This can be a very exciting time, and there is a lot to know! Whether you want to have sex, or are just curious about what sex is, this website can help you learn more about it.
Sex: What Is It?
Sex can be many different things for different people. It can involve some form of sexual activity by yourself, with a partner or multiple people. Sex is completely normal and natural, and is pleasurable for many. Alot of people have complicated thoughts and feelings about sex. Some people are just trying to figure it out. There are many different types of sex that fall under the category of sexual activity. It is up to you to decide what sex means for you.
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What is Sex?
Sex&U: What is Sex?
Virginity
Virginity is when someone has never had sex. Virginity is a bit complicated because it can look different for everyone! People have different understandings and definitions of what ‘sex’ means and what ‘losing their virginity’ means to them.
A common conception is that you lose your virginity when you have penis-in-vagina sex. But there are so many other types of sex, especially for LGBTQ+ people. It is up to you to decide the definition of sex for you and what losing your virginity means to you. For example, you may have had anal sex or oral sex and that might mean you are no longer a virgin, or it might mean that you are a virgin. What is most important is how you feel about your sexual experiences and that if/when you decide to have sex, you are ready.
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Am I Ready For Sex?
You may be considering having sex for the first time but are not sure if you are ready. There can be a lot of different things that you should think about before having sex. Have you thought about why you want to have sex or how it will make you feel? Have you considered your own feelings and thoughts around sex as opposed to the thoughts and judgements of others? Have you learned about having safer and consensual sex?
These types of questions are important to ask yourself before you decide to have sex. Sex is a deeply personal decision, and you should feel confident that you are ready without seeking this validation from anyone but yourself. The more you know, the easier it will be to make decisions that make you feel good about sex.
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Am I Ready for Sex?
Am I Ready?
Pleasure
For a lot of sexuality education programs, the focus is on reducing harm and risk, such as by avoiding the transmission of STIs or increasing awareness of birth control. Although this is critical and relevant information, it is also important to focus on pleasure! Engaging in sexual activities whether by yourself or with someone else can feel really good and give you lots of pleasure. This help us reflect on what we are really looking for when we are thinking about having sex.
Every individual will have their own experience of sexual pleasure. Knowing your own sexual preferences, needs, boundaries and desires can help you have sex that feels good to you and can help guide conversations with your partners about the types of sex you want to have.
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